Patients Guide To Hymenoplasty
If history tells us anything, it’s that sex is an incredibly complicated topic. Some societies were relatively free in this area and as such they generally placed a greater emphasis on personal pleasure. Others were more restrictive.
Even now, you can still find religious sects and ethnic groups that adhere very strongly to ideals of abstinence until marriage. In fact, many of these communities have taken things a step further and placed a premium on female virginity in particular.
What has usually been considered the proof of virginity? A hymen that’s still intact.
Contrary to popular belief on this front, a hymen can rupture for any number of non-sexual reasons such as like
- horse-back riding
- inserting of a tampon
- plus many more reasons
That’s without even mentioning the women who are born without a hymen in the first place.
Of course, even if the cause of a broken hymen is previous sexual activity, that shouldn’t signal the end of your life or devalue you as marriage potential.
Luckily, there’s a way to fix a broken hymen (or create one that isn’t there) discreetly and tactfully. That would be by getting a hymenoplasty.
What is Hymenoplasty?
As straightforward as you’d think this is, to properly answer this question we first have to explain what a “hymen” is.
In basic terms, the hymen is a membrane that partially covers the opening of the vagina. For individual women, the specifics can get a bit tricky because there is no correct size and there are also some women who are born without one.
In any case, the breaking of the hymen is the cause of the bleeding and discomfort often talked about in romance novels and the like.
If there has been a break, what hymenoplasty does is allows the hymen to be restored back to its initial, intact state.
Are There Any Benefits?
From many people’s perspective, once a hymen has been ruptured that’s it. Why would any woman want to go through with this?
What are the benefits?
Compelling reasons to get this procedure done include:
- Making that first night special
- Regaining a symbol of virginity
- To have a sense of personal ownership
Let’s take a closer look at those.
1. A Special First Night
Whether the mood strikes immediately after the wedding or at a different time, everyone wants that first night to be memorable. For many couples, having an intact hymen is an essential part of the bonding experience.
It symbolizes a new beginning or the “first” of “many firsts”. There’s no underestimating the emotional impact this can have.
On that note, this isn’t just an option for those who are walking down the aisle for the first time. This is also available to individuals who want to relive the magic during an anniversary or those who simply have a special night planned for their partners.
In some cultures and religious circles, a high value is placed on being a virgin prior to your marriage. Yet despite the conservative ideas surrounding sex and sexuality in these places, there’s still a secular culture at large that doesn’t share the same mores.
Where problems can arise, however, is in communities that consider an intact hymen to be proof of your sexual status. Being found without one can be a social disaster in the making.
The beauty of this procedure is that it allows women to have the “best of both worlds” so to speak. Whether she’s had previous partners or simply wasn’t born with a hymen, doesn’t mean that she should be ostracized for it. This is a procedure that lets you make your own decisions without losing face.
3. A Sense of Personal Ownership
This is a benefit that will probably resonate the most with victims of sexual assault, but in a sense it’s a theme that has universal applications.
For women who were assaulted, coming out of relationships, or otherwise wanting to share something special with their new significant other, have a vested interest in regaining a sense of ownership over their bodies.
As has been pointed out numerous times, an intact hymen is something that represents a clean slate to many people.
What Are Your Options?
If hymen restoration is something you’re really looking into, there are three specific procedures you may be asked to choose from:
- Basic stitching of a recently torn hymen.
- Typically handled days ahead of the wedding night, there’s the option of creating a bloodless membrane with or without the addition of artificial blood.
- A more involved procedure that creates an entirely new hymen from the lining of the vagina. This has a longer recovery period although it does include an authentic blood supply.
Chances are you’ll be selecting one of the latter two procedures.
What Can You Expect?
From your perspective, everything starts with the initial consultation. These are usually easy enough to book with the clinic. During the consultation, you’ll be informed of your options and the doctor will work with you to ensure that you’re choosing the best strategy for your situation.
Once that’s been settled, you’ll then have to undergo a physical exam as well as a gynecological exam.
When you come to the clinic for your restoration, you’re in good hands from the get-go. You’ll be placed under anaesthesia to ensure that things remain painless from start to finish. Once the doctor sees that you’re ready, he or she will most likely use lasers to perform the procedure.
The good news for discreet women who have busy schedules to manage is that this is considered an outpatient surgery. What this means is that you won’t have to spend the night at the clinic or anything like that. Although specific times may vary, this doesn’t normally take more than two hours.
It’s been stated that depending on the individual and the type of procedure involved, recovery can take anywhere from a few days to as much as 6 weeks. While you can normally return to work within a few days, you’ll have to consult with your physician to find out when you’ll be physically ready for sexual intercourse.
After you’ve recovered, your hymen will be in exactly the same state that it was in prior to its rupture although you may find that the vaginal walls are also tighter than before. When you have sexual intercourse following your recovery, the hymen will rupture. You can expect a certain amount of bleeding as a result.
Best of all, however, is the fact that there are no visible signs of surgery. How’s that for peace of mind?
How Much Does Hymenoplasty Cost?
Generally speaking, the exact cost of getting the hymen reattached will depend on both your clinic and where you live. For a ballpark sum, you’ll most likely see a range of about $2,000 – $5,000 for this procedure.
Some clinics offer hymen restoration for as little as $1,800 while others will charge significantly more than $5,000.
Who Normally Gets This Done?
It would surprise most people to know that this is actually one of the most popular procedures out there. Women from all over the world have been known to travel for this procedure.
So what kind of patients do clinics normally see? Who is usually asking to get this procedure done?
Well, just about everybody. There are:
- Women who have had children and want to surprise their partners
- Victims of rape
- Women whose hymens have ruptured over the course of their lives
- Women who are from cultures or ethnic backgrounds that consider intact hymens as proof of virginity
- Women who are about to get married
- Women who want to feel young again…
In short, the list goes on. Patients are often as varied as their stories. About the only thing you can say is that patients are usually within the range of 21 years to 27 years, but doctors have seen women as young as 18 and as mature as 45.
Basically, if you decide to go this route you can rest assured that you’re in good company. Restoration is a lot more common than you’d think at first glance.
Choosing Your Surgeon
Even if you’ve decided to go through with this procedure, you obviously don’t want just anyone to be operating on you. You want to make sure that your doctor is someone who you can trust. After all, the last thing you want is to end up in a state of confusion. Here are a few tips on choosing your doctor that you’ll be glad you kept in mind.
Tip #1: Make Sure That You’re Comfortable
Have you ever seen those movies where two characters meet for the first time and become best friends forever? Have you ever been to a Christmas party where you bonded with someone you met by the punch bowl?
A hymen restoration is different from other medical procedures in that although there’s a certain amount of professional distance between the patient and the doctor, this is still an incredibly intimate process. That’s why it’s important for you to make sure that you’re going to a medical professional that you can trust.
Are you confident in this doctor? Is your doctor taking care to listen to your concerns?
Don’t doubt your gut instinct.
Tip #2: Research the Clinic’s Reputation
Even if the years spent in medical school require some respect, it’s safe to say that not all clinics are made equal. For those who might not want news of their surgery to get out, chances are that there’s going to be a lot of solo-trips involved here. Some women even take things a step further by paying in cash.
All of this is to say that for the many patients who are seeking utmost discretion, it’s easy to become blinded by that desire to keep the surgery a secret.
For this reason, doing research on your clinic of choice is all the more essential.
On that note, it’s worth mentioning that past clients are often a useful means of gleaning valuable information from a patient’s perspective.
There are reviews that can be found on the Internet thanks to Google Review and similar sites. When you go in for your consultation, you can often ask about references and testimonials from past clients.
From there, you have to analyze what you’re reading. Are reviewers giving high ratings but being vague about their experiences? On the other hand, do you see glowing testimonials from customers who also underwent the same surgery?
These are clues you can use to get a sense of whether or not you’ve found the right place.
Tip #3: Take Note of the Doctor’s Experience
Even with an excellent reputation and a confidence-inspiring demeanor, it’s still possible to find yourself hiring a doctor who’s relatively new to the area of gynecological plastic surgery.
Many patients are facing serious social implications if their hymens aren’t intact. For others, a mistake here could end up costing them the perfect anniversary night or the wedding night of her dreams.
While there’s no question that any medical professional has enough knowledge to fill a book, there’s simply no substitute for experience. Your body is literally on the line. It doesn’t make sense to risk it on a doctor who’s just getting started in this area.
Feel free to ask questions about how many hymen restorations the doctor has done. Find out if he or she has dealt with similar patients to you. This is an approach that will take mere minutes to accomplish, but it’s one that’ll ultimately give you peace of mind as you make your decision.
Just decades ago, restoring your body to its original state wasn’t impossible. Once the hymen was broken, there was no going back. Through the process of hymenoplasty, however, things have clearly changed for the better.
It’s a procedure that usually wraps up in a couple hours, doesn’t have a long recovery period, and the best part is that no one has to know that you opted for it.
Consider contacting a clinic near you today.
Some women also require more surgeries on their genital area which are discussed in other resources for you such as our guide to vaginoplasty and for those with uncomfortable labia you can also use our extensive guide to labia plastic surgery for further info.